You are about to pass the 80-day mark of the 100-day journey that I challenged you to on February 5th. How are you feeling? Do you need to keep doing what you are doing? Do you need to make some shifts or changes? Whatever it is, I encourage you to continue this journey through the end. There are 20 days left, you can do it. Let’s go.
God is here! As we your people
Meet to offer praise and prayer,
May we find in fuller measure
What it is in Christ we share.
Here, as in the world around us,
All our varied skills and arts
Wait the coming of the Spirit
Into open minds and hearts.
Here are symbols to remind us
Of our lifelong need of grace:
Here are table, font, and pulpit;
Here the cross has central place.
Here in honesty of preaching,
Here in silence, as in speech,
Here, in newness and renewal,
God the Spirit comes to each.
Here our children find a welcome
In the Shepherd’s flock and fold;
Here as bread and wine are taken,
Christ sustains us as of old.
Here the servants of the Servant
Seek in worship to explore
What it means in daily living
To believe and to adore.
Lord of all, of church and kingdom,
In an age of change and doubt
Keep us faithful to the gospel;
Help us work you purpose out.
Here, in this day’s dedication,
All we have to give, receive:
We, who cannot live without you,
We adore you, we believe!
– Fred Pratt Green 1979, rev. 1988
In 1978, I answered the question, what makes me happy with the following:
- Feeling needed and special
- Contributing to planet earth
- Beach time
- Hotels (not motels)
- Great music
- Friends and family
Almost 40 years later, I found this list while going through old papers. Looking at this list again and cannot think of anything else to add to it. What about you? What makes you happy? Has it changed or been added to over the years? Do you have any lists from the past that have stayed constant over the years?
While I believe that people do change and improve continually, I also believe there are core strengths and attributes that are constant within us. What about you? What are your core desires?
As you search from goal to goal, what do you feel? Do you feel the moment’s satisfaction of completing the goal, or obtaining the object – the car, the house, the vacation – then followed by the ‘what’s next?’ feeling? It seems we are never completely satisfied with what we do, what we have, and who we are. In Hebrews this is listed as, ‘longing for a better country.’
“All the things that have ever deeply possessed your soul have been but hints of it – tantalizing glimpses, promises never quite fulfilled, echoes that died away just as they caught your ear. It is a secret signature of each soul that is incommunicable.”
Part of my journey has been an appetite toward self-discovery. I am always excited when I can peel away another layer and discover another part of myself. But then, I start digging again to see what else is there. As an avid reader, I do a lot of my digging via reading books and articles of interest. The areas of interest are vast but can be explained by C. S. Lewis.
“Have you noticed that the books you really love are bound together by a secret thread? You know very well what is the common quality that makes you love them, though you cannot put it into words: but most of your friends do not see it at all, and often wonder why liking this you should also like that.”
For me, the yearning to learn more about my identity continues. Based on what is written in Revelations, it will probably continue. Revelations 2:17 states, “God will give us a white stone with your new name written on it – known only to you and Him.” So, based on this, only in heaven (our identity’s birthplace) will I find out who I really am. It will be revealed with my new name, the name only God and I will know. Until then, I will continue my journey and rest along the way after each discovery. And to finish with C S Lewis: “If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”
Cite: A Better Country: Preparing for Heaven by Dan Schaefer
- The place where I belong.
- The place where I am known.
- The place I want to return to over and over.
Family, friends, buildings, rooms, familiarity, love, belonging, security, roots, and memories.
A place of retreat, comfort, and security, where we enjoy special relationships with family. Fond memories, sights, sounds, and smells remind us we are home, and when we are away from it, make us want to long to return.
Includes certain experiences that can’t be repeated. Relationships with our family change over time. We change over time. We change emotionally, physically, intellectually, and in many other ways, so it is impossible to recapture those treasured experiences of the past that we think of when we think of home. All we are left with are faded memories.
If we think about it, our dearest memories of home are nothing more than snapshots, precious memories, and moments captured briefly before the tide of time washes all evidence of them away. We try to preserve our ideas of home with pictures of people and events, but even they fade with time as those who were truly moved by them pass away.
What do you think of when you think of home? Do you think of your childhood home? Your now home? Your forever home? Your idealized home?
- Think of stepping on shore
- And finding it heaven
- Of taking hold of a hand
- And finding it God’s
- Of breathing a new air
- And finding it celestial air
- Of feeling invigorated
- And finding it immortality
- Of passing from a storm of stress
- To a perfect calm
- Of walking in
- And finding it home.
Cite: A Better Country: Preparing for Heaven by Dan Schaefer
You recently passed the 40-day mark of the 100-day journey that I challenged you to on February 5th. Accordingly, you have started a new habit or let go of an old one and have ingrained this change into your system, your plan, your schedule. How are you feeling?
Was it easier than you thought? Was it more difficult than you imagined? Did you have a few bad days? Did you give up? Whether you are struggling through the change or sailing through it, take a moment today to think about the journey. Do you need to keep doing what you are doing? Do you need to make some shifts or changes? Whatever it is, I encourage you to continue this journey through the end. There are 60 days left, you can do it. Let’s go.
I’m a boss, a supervisor, and a servant leader. I’ve been a mentor several times. Now, I’m learning to be a coach. Here’s what I’m learning:
Coaching is confidential, of course, but it is also more passive than mentoring. As a boss, you act like a consultant. You know the best way to get where you want to go, and you work toward getting your team there. As a mentor, you use your experiences to help your mentees obtain their goals. As a coach, your client decides where to go and how to get there.
As a coach you ask your client, what do you want to talk about? What can you do? And you ask for permission to give suggestions to the client. After multiple years being a mentor and a boss, the last one is hard for me to remember.
To be a good coach, you
- Stand next to your client and watch them as they choose the path they want to take and how to get there. Your clients are the experts of his/her own life.
- Keep your opinions to yourself. Your client shouldn’t be able to know how you feel or what you believe about whatever you are discussing.
- Empower your client’s journey which is always powerful.
- Practice increasing your tolerance for
- others’ anxiety
- others’ disapproval
- others’ stress
- Practice international equilibrium which is a fancy way of saying staying balanced within yourself while being pulled by fear, conflict, and anxiety.
So, why am I am taking coaching? Well, I always want to be learning new things. I always want to be improving. And I think being a good coach will also help me be a better boss. What do you think? Do any of these tips speak to you today?