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The final piece of foundational advice that Author Rubin offers to begin The Happiness Project is to come up with your list of Commands to Live By. The commands / rules will be different for each person but knowing your rules/commands allows you to stay grounded when decisions need to be made. As usual, my rules to live by come from others including Author Rubin. Her commands, some which require you to read her book to understand, follow:

  1. Be Gretchen
  2. Let it go
  3. Act the way I want to feel
  4. Do it now
  5. Be polite
  6. Be fair
  7. Enjoy the process
  8. Spend out
  9. Identify the problem
  10. Lighten up
  11. Do what ought to be done
  12. No calculation
  13. There is only love

Sheila’s current list

  1. Be authentic
  2. Be responsible for yourself
  3. Never stop dreaming and believing
  4. Never stop growing and reaching
  5. Make peace with your past so your energies can be focused on your present
  6. Give people room to be themselves
  7. (from Author Rubin) Act the way you want to feel
  8. (from Author Rubin) Be polite
  9. (from Author Rubin) Be fair
  10. (from Author Rubin) Identify the problem
  11. (from Colin Powell) Pay the king his shilling
  12. (from Colin Powell) When you leave a position, roll up the windows, turn up the music, and drive away quickly so you do not hear the trash can covers closing on all your good ideas
  13. (from Congressman Mazzoli) Live your life as if it will show up on the front page of the paper; it could
  14. (from Gary Zukov) You can choose to be right; You can choose to be kind; Choose to be kind.
  15. Live, Love, Learn, Laugh, Last.

What are the commands you live by and how have they helped you in your life?



Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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