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Soloing To Your Life’s Ambition ~ 2013-0609


Harriet Rubin’s book, Soloing, is an excellent handbook for anyone who dreams of moving from “corporado” to soloist. Why should you leave the organization and become a soloist? You gain the freedom of your independence and the freedom of your identity again.Most people decide to leave a company three years before they actually leave it. “The only thing you’ll ever regret about leaving a company is that you didn’t do it sooner.”

Rules for soloists

  1. Master your material so it doesn’t stand in the way of your voice.
  2. Trust spontaneity.
  3. Conquer stage fright by reducing it to physical terms – hello sweaty palms, hello dry mouth, etc.
  4. Don’t let your body betray you, watch your body language.
  5. Love the applause, make it past.
  6. Build character, not ego.
  7. Declare a big dream; it is the promise you make to yourself.
  8. Develop a thick skin.
  9. Love intensity over rationality.
  10. Remember you are only as good as the last project; don’t over promote yourself, act quickly and make things happen fast.

Managing yourself

  1. Give yourself a bonus.
  2. Book time for relaxation every week.
  3. Don’t distract yourself with fear.
  4. Practice good time management; remember the only thing you cannot increase is time.

Laws of solo money

  1. Measure everything by how much life you have to give it.
  2. The price on the freedom train is nothing; it is free.
  3. Free is not a number, it is a leap into the unknown.
  4. Spending is having; having is not accumulating, having is spending.
  5. Risk is the way to get rich.
  6. Get paid for your worth; do not preset your fees.
  7. Cash flow if life itself.

Your best client is yourself

  1. The most important lesson to learn is how to take care of yourself.
  2. The quantity of work is not important, the quality of assignment is important.

Once a soloist, always a soloist.  If you go back to the corporation after soloing, you can be paid but not paid for.

CITE: Rubin. H. (1999). Soloing: Realizing Your Life’s Ambition. New York. Harper Collins Publishers



Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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