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5 deep thoughts from Dr. Lair

Quotes from Dr. Jess Lair’s book, I Ain’t Much Baby, But I’m All I’ve Got:

  1. Being real means accepting yourself as you are not as you want to be.
  2. When you accept yourself, you change; when you accept others, they change.
  3. Decide what behavior you want from others and reinforce it; if you don’t like a behavior, stop reinforcing it.
  4. As children, we felt unworthy and caved into our parents wants because we wanted their love. This can exist in our adult lives so we twist our behavior into that which will please our parents and/or society or we will rebel against everything they want.
  5. Only you can be the captain of your ship; Everything you do is bound together. You can’t be better at working than living. You can’t be a better mother, sister, executive than you can be at living. People who are having difficulties in these areas are running away from themselves.  Accepting yourself as you are creates a calmer world because you stop bugging people.

How are you at accepting yourself? What areas do you feel you need to work on?


Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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