From the book, The Cinderella Complex:
“Women accept the submissive role to avoid the strain involved in undertaking an authentic existence.” — Simone de Beauvoir
“Her head tells her that all she wants is freedom. Her heart, however, speaks differently.”
“In high school, I was both a leader and a discipline problem.”
Having a resentful mother leads to daughters who have a chronic low-grade depression; an undercurrent that is ever present. This is typical of the woman who’ll get heavily involved in her work and give a lot to others but be emotionally malnourished herself. To become one’s own person means to take responsibility for one’s own existence, to create one’s own life, and to devise one’s own schedule. The woman who believes in herself does not have to fool herself with empty dreams of things that are beyond her capabilities. At the same time, she does not waver in the face of tasks for which she’s competent and prepared. She is realistic, well-grounded, and self-loving. She is free at last to love others because she loves her self.