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Dr. Phil gems

From Dr. Phil’s book, Relationship Rescue:

Think about the number of times that you have blurted out something in the heart of a moment. It felt good at the moment, but what good did it do? You possibly damaged your relationship and sometimes the damage is permanent. Try these 4 steps the next time you argue:

5 steps to remember when arguing:

  1. Take it private and keep it private
  2. Decide what you want before you start the fight
  3. Keep it relevant
  4. Know when to say whe
  5. Make it possible for the other to retreat with dignity

“What I fear, I create.”

Remember relationships are managed not cured.

  1. You are personally accountable for your relationship
  2. Accept vulnerability
  3. Lighten up
  4. Focus on friendship
  5. Promote your partner’s self-esteem
  6. Aim your frustrations in the right direction
  7. Be up front and forthright
  8. Make yourself happy rather than right
  9. Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil
  10. Put motion in your emotion
  11. Make your needs known


Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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