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Men and Women – 10 comparisons

From John Gray, Ph.D., Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus:

  • A women’s tendency to be compulsive relaxes as she feel worthy of love. Knowing that she doesn’t have to earn love, she can relax and receive it.
  • A man appears most uncaring when he is afraid.
  • It is difficult for a man to listen to a woman when she is unhappy or disappointed because he feels like a failure.
  • The biggest challenge for a woman is to correctly interpret and support a man when is isn’t talking.
  • When men aren’t talking and are “in the cave”, women should let them be. They should do something that makes them happy. They shouldn’t sit by the “cave door.”
  • Women must do things on their own so the men can miss them occasionally.
  • Men argue for the right to be free.  (Men want space.)
  • Women argue for the right to be upset.  (Women want understanding).
  • As women’s financial needs are fulfilled, they become more aware of their emotional needs.
  • The more a man loves a woman, the more he needs her approval.
  • Men are like rubber bands – stretching away but then coming back.
  • Women are like waves – rising, falling, then cycling again.
  • Women have more corpus callosum in their brains than men. This allows them to access left brain/right brain quickly  so they can shift gears quickly.
  • Men shift gears by grumbling.
  • Men see the world from a focused perspective (like an archer with his bow headed for center target).
  • Women see the world from an expanded perspective (like a satellite dish receiving from and reflecting in all directions). This is why women are easily overwhelmed by the needs of others.
  • Women blame themselves first.
  • Men blame others first.
  • Men need – trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement.
  • Women need – caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance.


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Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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