Do you talk to yourself – internally? Basically, you are recreating the outside world inside yourself and then you live in you mind. You will come to see that the mind talks all the time because you gave it a job to do. You use it as a protection mechanism, a form of defense. Ultimately, it makes you feel more secure.
As long as that is what you want, you’ll be forced to constantly use your mind to buffer yourself from life instead of living it. True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protection. This is done by remembering that you control your thoughts; you are the one listening to the thoughts, thus, you can change them.
Reference: Michael A. Singer. (2007). The Untethered Soul. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
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