One of the essential requirements for true spiritual growth and deep personal transformation is coming to peace with pain. No expansion or evolution can take place without change, and periods of change are not always comfortable. Change involves challenging what is familiar to us, and daring to question our traditional needs for safety, comfort, and control. This is often perceived as a painful experience.
Becoming familiar with this pain is part of your growth. Even though you may not actually like the feelings of inner disturbance, you must be able to sit quietly inside and face them if you want to see where they come from. Once you can face your disturbances, you will realize that there is a layer of pain seated deep in the core of your heart. This pain is so uncomfortable, so challenging, and so destructive to the individual self, that your entire life is spent avoiding it. Your entire personality is built upon ways of being, thinking, acting, and believing that were developed to avoid pain.
The heart is where the pain comes from. If you do not want to deal with the pain at its core, you need to get some distance so you can get perspective. Wise beings do not want to remain a slave to the fear of pain. They permit the world to be what it is instead of being afraid of it. When they feel pain, they view it as energy and allow it pass through. They do not try to avoid it or stop it.
Reference: Michael A. Singer. (2007). The Untethered Soul. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
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