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There are No Justified Resentments

Removing blame means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you are experiencing. It may mean saying, I don’t know why I’m experiencing this (accident, illness, etc.), but I own it. Taking responsibility for the ‘it’ allows you to remove ‘it’ or learn from the ‘it’. Blaming someone else means you have to wait for that person to change before you can.

Second level is sending love, peace, joy, forgiveness, and kindness as your response instead of resentment. Depersonalize what you’ve just heard and respond with kindness. Choose to be kind rather than right.

Think of the parable, “Someone gives you a gift, but you do not accept it. To whom does the gift belong?” Why allow something that belongs to someone else to create resentment in you when you don’t want the gift. Become a person who refuses to be offended by anyone, anything, or any circumstance.

When you encounter someone who says things that are inappropriate, or when you know that they are wrong, wrong, wrong, simply say, “You are right” and walk away. This may seem counter intuitive but your goal is to stay in peace. If you have faith in your own beliefs, other people’s beliefs and conduct will not offend you.

No one can define you with their judgments, but remember you cannot define others either. Stop judging and simply observe others, then you will know inner peace.

Reference: 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace by Dr. Wayne Dyer



Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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