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Defending Your Heart



The first subject this year included choosing a purpose, setting goals, and improving your body’s health. The second subject will be heart health, starting with information from the book, Defenders of the Heart. Feel free to let me know what you think about it.

We have 10 common defense mechanisms that we can use to help us through life. When used correctly, defense mechanisms help us succeed in life. When overused, they can cause us to wall off our hearts, to become stiff and inflexible. We find it hard to reach for the things we desire.  We become socially and emotionally awkward. The most commonly discussed defense mechanisms include – denial, passive aggression, and procrastination. Others include projection, sublimation, altruism, displacement, rationalization, and intellectualization.

To thrive – to get more enjoyment from living –we must keep in touch with the world; giving and receiving love and reaching out to embrace people, activities, and causes that create a full life. When we grow more conscious of our defense mechanisms and begin to understand how these devices help and hurt us throughout our lives, our world becomes richer and less barren. Knowing more about how we use your defenders in stressful situations allows us to be in charge of them instead of them being in charge of us. We can use defense mechanisms to serve use rather than to block us.

We all have our own pace to self-awareness. When we are ready, we will be ready to be affected by emotions without our defense mechanisms taking control. Sometimes we are ready after a traumatic event. Sometimes, we are ready when we’ve had multiple negative experiences pile on top on us until we’ve had enough.

When are you ready to address improving your heart by taking control of your defense mechanisms? Do you require a traumatic event, or are you like me and you just wake up one day and say, “enough, I’m sick and tired of this.”  What are your defense mechanisms? Can you pick yours out from the list? Over the next few posts, we’ll explore some listed in this post including some of mine.

Cite: Kagan, M. and Einbund, N. Defenders of the Heart. (2008). Carlsbad, Ca. Hay House, Inc.





Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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