When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him / her, you see yourself. As you treat him / her, you treat yourself. As you think of him/her, you think of yourself.
Another way or remembering this idea is to remember the line from Les Miserable: To love another person is to see the face of God. If you are having trouble with this in practice, remember: Forgiveness takes away what stands between you and your brother or sister. And if you are having trouble forgiving, try this prayer: Dear God, let me see this person through your eyes.”
Holding grievances goes against love. Do you prefer to be right or happy? If you are judging another person, you are wrong even if you are right.
When people behave unlovingly, they have forgotten who they are. What we think of as people’s anger or guilt is really their fear. When they are rude, they are afraid. When they are manipulative, they are afraid. When they are cruel, they are afraid. There are only two emotions – love and fear. Fear is a call for love. Love those who are acting out of fear so that you can stay in peace with yourself.
A relationship is not meant to be the joining of the hip of two emotional invalids. Relationships are the joining of two complete people. But when we try to use relationships to serve our own purposes, we falter because we are enforcing our illusion of need. We are always looking for something while sabotaging what we’ve found.
A spiritual relationship isn’t one where both people are smiling all the time. It is one where both people are authentic with each other. If you’ve found yourself attracted to someone, pray this prayer:
Please take my attraction, my thoughts, and my feelings about this person and use them for your purposes. Let this relationship unfold according to your will.
CITE: Williamson, M. (1996). A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles. New York: Harper Collins Publishers.