It is more important to lose weight holistically than quickly. Weight that disappears from your body but not your soul is self-defeating. Judgement and blame are your weightiest thoughts of all because they lack love. They are products of the fear-based mind. Learning to forgive both yourself and others is the greatest gift you can give yourself on your path to conscious weight loss.
Losing weight will not heal your relationships, but healing your relationships will help you lose weight. Cultivating a forgiving attitude softens the edges of human contact; it corrects our perceptions from fear back to love. This is called atonement.
There are two filters to view all things – the body and the spirit. Using only the body, you’ll be bound by the body’s appetites. To see beyond the body, you must see beyond the material plane to the truer truth of who you are.
A friend who says something cruel is lost and lonely, disconnected from her love.
No matter what happens, you must remember you have a choice – you can focus on the drama or you can focus above it. We are all made of love. We all make mistakes. When you detach from the over-emphasis of other’s mistakes, you can then detach from over-emphasis of your own.
Forgiveness is like preventative medicine – it cancels out the lie in the center of the fear mind (guilt). Forgiveness is selective remembering. It’s a conscious choice to focus on the person’s innocence instead of mistakes. Any path to permanent weight loss addresses your sense of isolation and the despair it spawns.
- Identify those you haven’t forgiven.
- List their names. When a name occurs, write it down along with the feelings you feel about them (anger, contempt, betrayal, etc.)
- Then write “I am willing to see this person differently. Write this three times.
Source: Williamson, Marianne. A course in weight-loss: 21 spiritual lessons for surrendering your weight forever.