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The 4 Agreements – A summary

4 agreements

As mentioned in two earlier posts, I’m a fan of the 4 Agreements.(  and ) So I was pleased to see the book the 5 Agreements, a sequel to an old favorite.

A summary of the previous 4 agreements:

  1. Be impeccable with your word – Humans are born with the power of creation, and we are constantly creating stories with the words that we learned. We create the story of our own lives, the story of our families, the story of our communities, the story of our country, the story of our humanity, and the story of our world. You are programmed to deliver a message, and the creation of that message is your greatest art. The message? Your life. Thus, never use the power of your word against yourself. Never betray yourself with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally – Everything you perceive is a reflection of what is real, just like looking in a mirror is a reflection of your real self. A reflection of truth is always going to be distorted by the knowledge we have stored in our memory. You are. If you don’t like who you are, change your story. Remember, your story is unique to you because you are the main character in your story. You are a minor character in other people’s stories, so their perceptions of your reflection are different than yours. Thus, you cannot take their perceptions personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions – Humans create the lies and then the lies control the humans. Sooner or later the truth arrives, and lies cannot live in the presence of truth. Making assumptions is just looking for trouble because they are not the truth. Making assumptions and then believing them is the beginning of hell. Almost all conflicts are based on assumptions. Making assumptions is just looking for drama when there is no drama happening. Humans have a need to explain and justify everything. We have a need for knowledge. When we don’t know, we make assumptions. We don’t care if the assumptions are true or not. Truth or fiction we believe 100 percent in what we believe, and we go on believing it because it makes us feel safe. Thus, it is always better to ask and be clear than to make assumptions. When we don’t make assumptions, we can focus on the truth, not what we think is the truth.
  4. Always do your best – Change is the result of action, it is the result of practice. Practice makes the master. Everything you’ve learned, you’ve learned through repetition and practice. This agreement allows the other three to become ingrained habits.

CITE: The Fifth Agreement by Don Ruiz



Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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