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Hope Vs Expectations

HOPE

I used to ask, “What’s wrong and how can we fix it? Then I realized the better question was “What is possible and who cares?” Tip 1: Stay away from “What’s wrong? Be an agent of hope and ask “What’s possible?”

People want to be together. We are happiest when we can work well together. It is antithetical to human nature to be alone – we are a species that has always worked well in groups. So why do we have trouble with it?

One problem is people fear scarcity. The idea of scarcity is frightening. It represents emotional hunger, physical stress, and spiritual numbness. It cultivates an atmosphere in which little can be done as a team because of the mindset that there won’t be enough to go around. Then people begin to work toward ensuring they get theirs. They jump to conclusions and don’t bother to investigate people’s intentions. Soon the situation appears hopeless.

This is where hope comes in. However, first we must discuss the difference between hope and expectations. Expectations are what you and others think things should be which may have nothing to do with what you truly desire. Hopes are what we really want when we are honest with ourselves. In order to truly have success as a team, we need to determine what is truly important to us. Or to quote the words of a pop song, “what you really want, what you really, really want.” Articulating your hopes is the first step to living them. The next step is putting them in action.

Reference: HOW GREAT DECISIONS GET MADE: 10 EASY STEPS FOR REACHING AGREEMENT ON EVEN THE TOUGHEST ISSUES By Don Maruska

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Author:

Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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