I used to ask, “What’s wrong and how can we fix it? Then I realized the better question was “What is possible and who cares?” Tip 1: Stay away from “What’s wrong? Be an agent of hope and ask “What’s possible?”
People want to be together. We are happiest when we can work well together. It is antithetical to human nature to be alone – we are a species that has always worked well in groups. So why do we have trouble with it?
One problem is people fear scarcity. The idea of scarcity is frightening. It represents emotional hunger, physical stress, and spiritual numbness. It cultivates an atmosphere in which little can be done as a team because of the mindset that there won’t be enough to go around. Then people begin to work toward ensuring they get theirs. They jump to conclusions and don’t bother to investigate people’s intentions. Soon the situation appears hopeless.
This is where hope comes in. However, first we must discuss the difference between hope and expectations. Expectations are what you and others think things should be which may have nothing to do with what you truly desire. Hopes are what we really want when we are honest with ourselves. In order to truly have success as a team, we need to determine what is truly important to us. Or to quote the words of a pop song, “what you really want, what you really, really want.” Articulating your hopes is the first step to living them. The next step is putting them in action.
Reference: HOW GREAT DECISIONS GET MADE: 10 EASY STEPS FOR REACHING AGREEMENT ON EVEN THE TOUGHEST ISSUES By Don Maruska