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Checked Your Listening Skills Lately?


Do you do anything listed here…..?

  1. Comparing – Checking to see if you measure up in terms of intelligence, wit, competence, suffering, etc.
  2. Mind reading – Pay attention to what you think someone “really” means based on your feelings, assumptions, and hunches.
  1. Rehearsing – Mentally planning your response while the other person is talking.
  1. Filtering – Tuning out certain topics.
  1. Judging – Deciding ahead of time that the other person is not worth listening to because s/he is ‘stupid’, ‘incompetent’, ‘crazy’, etc. or your prejudice toward their color, origin, language style, etc.
  1. Dreaming – Wandering thoughts are taking you everywhere but the conversation that is happening.
  1. Identifying – Something the person says triggers a thought that takes you away from the conversation. (He did that to me last week.)
  1. Advising – Jumping in with advice when the person has barely stopped talking. Fixing things may not be what the other person wants.
  1. Sparring – Listening long enough to find something to disagree with and assert your position.
  1. Being Right – Preparing during the conversation to show how right you are.
  2. Derailing – Changing the subject because you are bored or uncomfortable with the conversation.
  3. Placating – Being so concerned that you are being nice, agreeable or liked that you agree with everything the speaker says,

Cite: Training Werks, Inc.




Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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