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8 Conflicting Phrases


      1.   You must…You have to…You will… (ordering)

  1. If you don’t… You better or else… You’ll pay the big price… (threatening)
  1. It’s only right that you should…You ought to…It’s your duty to… (preaching)
  1. It’s all your fault…You are the problem here…. (blaming)
  1. You started this mess….You lied to me… You won’t listen… (accusing)
  1. You’re being unrealistic, angry, emotional, etc.; this is typical of you…(labeling)
  1. I want you to do it my way, but do it however you want (double binding)
  1. That’s nothing; listen to what happened to me (distracting)


Cite: Training Werks, Inc





Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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