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Finding the Love of Your Life


Ask yourself these questions (he can be he or she):

  1. Does he act with integrity?
  2. Is he kind and compassionate?
  3. Is he genuinely empathetic?
  4. Is he committed to a lifetime of learning and growing?
  5. Is he capable of genuine empathy?
  6. Does he work through his pain and problems?
  7. Does he have his own life separate from yours?
  8. Are your philosophies and world views similar?
  9. Does he have a sense of humor?
  10. Does he have a good heart?
  11. Does he want to be your best friend and soul mate? Is he capable of doing it?
  12. Does he add to your soul life as well as your material life?
  13. Does he bring out the best in you?
  14. Can he handle ambivalence and shades of gray?
  15. How does he handle weaknesses and failures – yours? His?


If you have someone that fills most of the above in a positive manner:

  1. Remember to reciprocate
  2. Love him for the person he is; not what he can do for you
  3. Let him know early on that you have trust issues that you are working on; but on working hard on not projecting them on him
  4. Fight your dependency and codependency needs
  5. Keep boundaries around your personal space and encourage him to do the same
  6. Be authentic at all times
  7. Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually; expect him to do the same
  8. Be accountable for your own feelings and behavior


CITE: Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyn McBride, Ph.D.




Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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