Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? Do you know the person staring back at you? Do you like her? If not, perhaps you need to work on some of these values:
Empathy – when you have empathy for others, they believe they have been heard and valued. Empathy is the cornerstone of love.
Accountability – Be accountable for your own feelings and behaviors. Others may blame their past or others, you are responsible. No one can make you drink, make you overeat, make you be aggressive toward others, etc.
Value your own personhood, not your accomplishments – Know who you are. Know who your children are. Don’t define yourself or them by how they perform in sports, ballets, etc., but by who they are.
Authenticity – Be real. Express real feelings. Encourage your children to do the same. It’s rarer than you think. Start a movement.
Respect parental hierarchy – Your children are not your friends. Respect the boundaries; be the parent. Don’t share adult information with them and overload them with adult problems. It is not your child’s responsibility to meet your needs.
CITE: Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyn McBride, Ph.D.