The capacity to experience a wide range of feelings deeply with liveliness, joy, vigor, excitement, and spontaneity. Allow yourself to feel authentic feelings and do not create barriers to numb out. Allow yourself to express your feelings in appropriate ways.
The capacity to expect appropriate entitlements. Believe in yourself; freely give yourself credit when it is due you.
The capacity for self-activation and assertion. Identify your dreams and desires; set out to accomplish them while believing you can.
The acknowledgement of self-esteem. Believe you are worthy and validate yourself despite worldly, external approval.
The ability to soothe painful feelings. Comfort yourself when life gives you painful situations. Don’t wallow in your miseries; find your solutions.
The ability to make and stick to commitments. When your decisions are right, stick to them, overcome obstacles, criticisms, and setbacks.
Creativity. Be resourceful and find solutions to problems; defuse negatives into positives.
Intimacy. Express yourself fully and honestly; create emotional intimacy without fear or anxiety of being abandoned or swallowed up.
The ability to be alone. Enjoy a relationship with yourself; be alone and find meaning within.
Continuity of self. Your inner core is real and remains the same throughout the trials and tribulations of life, including the aging process.
CITE: The Search for the Real Self by James Masterson