Unpleasant emotions are often seen as bad feelings. They make us afraid. They embarrass us. They frustrate us. However, properly processing our emotions brings positive power to negative emotions.
Feeling anger can mobilize our energies to confront a danger, as when anger empowers us to leave an abusive relationship. Sadness can heal our pain and enable us to feel kinship with others who have suffered similarly. Crying washes away the oils, salts, and stress hormones produced by intense emotion; tears flush and cleanse our systems. Using uncomfortable emotions in a constructive way creates positive power. To assist we need to
(1) know our feelings
(2) allow ourselves to be present with our emotions
(3) feel the emotion in our body
(4) let it go
(5) be open to the next emotion
With practice, this process can become a natural flow of feeling that allows spirituality to come fully forth by properly digesting emotion through identifying the feeling and seeing its physical and mental effects. Through self-control we can identify and rate our feelings, notice their mental and physical effects, and see through them, knowing that we are more than our feelings.
Cite: Losing the Weight of the World: A Spiritual Diet to Nourish the Soul by Jonathan Kramer, and Diane Dunaway Kramer