Posted in Self Improvement, Women

Workaholism

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The roots of workaholism are sown in narcissist homes. “I do therefore I am” is the motto of adult children from these homes. Constantly looking for more things that they can do to prove themselves, they are chronically exhausted, unaware of how this drive to achieve inhibits their ability to take care of themselves.

From one daughter,

“It all looks great, but somehow I feel like I am trying to prove something to justify my existence.”

No matter how much they try to accomplish and perform, they hear the internal message, it’s not enough. Busyness and workaholism can be a form of self-destructive behavior similar to alcoholism or drug and food addiction. It numbs the pain. If you are chronically exhausted and find that you can’t slow down, and are beginning to have health problems, it is time to take inventory of whether or not your activities fit your own value system, rather than your mother’s or your internalized critic. Looking strong and invulnerable on the outside may attempt to escape the emptiness and pain of feelings of unworthiness on the inside.

These daughters should remember the words of Marianne Williamson,

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

 

CITE: Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyn McBride, Ph.D.

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Author:

Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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