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Self-Saboteur

 

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All daughters of narcissist mothers give up along the way. They were children, not seasoned warriors when they tried to fulfill their mothers’ expectations. They became overachievers to prove their mothers wrong. They choose polar opposite routes. They took the anger out on themselves becoming a self- saboteur.

The self-saboteur is the high achiever’s internal twin. Rarely does anyone of us make a conscious choice to be self-destructive. If mothers denied her own feelings, then they would not have allowed you their daughters to have any either. As an adult, you can loosen the grip of self-doubt and soften the fallout from the lack of love as a child. Do not be discouraged, recovery is possible.

Self-sabotaging behavior is not a lack of talent or skill, it in an internal struggle within you. You clearly want to do something but your internal messages say you cannot or should not. It is important to know that there are many people who do care about you. Working in recovery will indeed change your life. You can heal.

CITE: Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyn McBride, Ph.D.

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Author:

Dr. Sheila Embry is a govie, author, pracademician, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend who loves to read, write, think, and laugh. Many of her blog postings are summaries or excerpts of books that she read and wants to share to encourage others. An author with more than 25 years experience within the legislative and executive branches of the U. S. federal government holding 3 accredited degrees: Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership, Master of Arts in Human Resources Development, and Baccalaureate of Business Administration, she believes in continuing learning both on and off the job. She has been recognized with multiple professional and writing awards for her peer-reviewed, publications. Click the bibliography page above for a listing of all the publications.

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