- The place where I belong.
- The place where I am known.
- The place I want to return to over and over.
Family, friends, buildings, rooms, familiarity, love, belonging, security, roots, and memories.
A place of retreat, comfort, and security, where we enjoy special relationships with family. Fond memories, sights, sounds, and smells remind us we are home, and when we are away from it, make us want to long to return.
Includes certain experiences that can’t be repeated. Relationships with our family change over time. We change over time. We change emotionally, physically, intellectually, and in many other ways, so it is impossible to recapture those treasured experiences of the past that we think of when we think of home. All we are left with are faded memories.
If we think about it, our dearest memories of home are nothing more than snapshots, precious memories, and moments captured briefly before the tide of time washes all evidence of them away. We try to preserve our ideas of home with pictures of people and events, but even they fade with time as those who were truly moved by them pass away.
What do you think of when you think of home? Do you think of your childhood home? Your now home? Your forever home? Your idealized home?
- Think of stepping on shore
- And finding it heaven
- Of taking hold of a hand
- And finding it God’s
- Of breathing a new air
- And finding it celestial air
- Of feeling invigorated
- And finding it immortality
- Of passing from a storm of stress
- To a perfect calm
- Of walking in
- And finding it home.
Cite: A Better Country: Preparing for Heaven by Dan Schaefer
You recently passed the 40-day mark of the 100-day journey that I challenged you to on February 5th. Accordingly, you have started a new habit or let go of an old one and have ingrained this change into your system, your plan, your schedule. How are you feeling?
Was it easier than you thought? Was it more difficult than you imagined? Did you have a few bad days? Did you give up? Whether you are struggling through the change or sailing through it, take a moment today to think about the journey. Do you need to keep doing what you are doing? Do you need to make some shifts or changes? Whatever it is, I encourage you to continue this journey through the end. There are 60 days left, you can do it. Let’s go.
I’m a boss, a supervisor, and a servant leader. I’ve been a mentor several times. Now, I’m learning to be a coach. Here’s what I’m learning:
Coaching is confidential, of course, but it is also more passive than mentoring. As a boss, you act like a consultant. You know the best way to get where you want to go, and you work toward getting your team there. As a mentor, you use your experiences to help your mentees obtain their goals. As a coach, your client decides where to go and how to get there.
As a coach you ask your client, what do you want to talk about? What can you do? And you ask for permission to give suggestions to the client. After multiple years being a mentor and a boss, the last one is hard for me to remember.
To be a good coach, you
- Stand next to your client and watch them as they choose the path they want to take and how to get there. Your clients are the experts of his/her own life.
- Keep your opinions to yourself. Your client shouldn’t be able to know how you feel or what you believe about whatever you are discussing.
- Empower your client’s journey which is always powerful.
- Practice increasing your tolerance for
- others’ anxiety
- others’ disapproval
- others’ stress
- Practice international equilibrium which is a fancy way of saying staying balanced within yourself while being pulled by fear, conflict, and anxiety.
So, why am I am taking coaching? Well, I always want to be learning new things. I always want to be improving. And I think being a good coach will also help me be a better boss. What do you think? Do any of these tips speak to you today?
There is lots of information out there on being a coach instead of a boss. However, there are times when you need to be the boss. When to be a coach and when to be a boss is thoughtfully covered in a November 15, 2016 article by Brenda Smyth, 4 Key Ingredients to Managing like a Coach. P please enjoy these quick notes from the article on supervision.
Good coaches are
- Passionate about their subject
- Clear when to communicate without talking too much
- Successful; employees trust the coach and know the coach has a plan
- Enthusiastic; makes employees want to be part of ‘doing great things’
- Empowering employees by building their confidence AND competence; they don’t check and monitor, but the concentrate on employees reaching a higher level of performance
- Knowledgeable when to turn into good bosses
Good bosses use the directive style (telling people what to do) when dealing with
- New or experienced employees
- Tight deadlines
- Dealing with problem employees
- Running a meeting
Good bosses want to be careful of over-managing because
- Employees don’t learn to think for themselves
- Employees become disengaged because they believe they are not being heard
- Provide direction by clearly defining the goals
- Improve performance by creating a learning environment where employees are supported to continuously improve
- Open up possibilities to develop employees to solve problems and make decisions
- Help remove obstacles by staying close to projects by asking questions and confronting people who become obstacles to their employees