If you’ve liked the subject this month, the photo this week is of the book cover. It has lots of good information and exercises. It can be found on Amazon.com, and I’m assuming lots of good bookseller sites. As we finish this month, I want to leave you with some final thoughts:
Don’t argue with your gremlin, simply notice, and move on. The author expands on this brilliantly in the book, but the argument reminded me of the old George Bernard Shaw proverb: Never wrestle with a pig. You get dirty and the pig likes it.
Free yourself by not trying to free yourself, but by simply noticing how you are imprisoning yourself.
Draw a picture of your childhood home, a floor layout. Then write things that happened there i.e., laid on the floor watching boxing with my dad, etc. Think about any habits that you created there. Are they good ones? Then keep them. If they aren’t, discard them or modify them.
Make a list of 10 of your same gender’s parent’s characteristics. Make a check mark by all that you share. Make a minus sign by all you would like to change or delete. Make a plus sign by all you want to keep and expand.
Remember, don’t listen to your gremlins. Notice them. Breathe deeply. Give your emotions lots of space, don’t try to suppress or block them; just experience them and move on.
A final reminder of common gremlins:
- You can’t – change it to I choose not to
- You should, you ought to – change it to I choose to, I choose not to
- You need – change it to you want
- You don’t deserve – change it to guilt serves no purpose. I am worthy.
- They have to change for me to feel better – change it to my feelings are my choice. Simply notice. Breathe deep. Center myself. Move on.
Cite: Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way by Rick Carson