Recently some friends were kind enough to hold a panel discussion at my workplace (via electronic means) for women leaders in our agency. I removed all the agency specifics, but I thought you may enjoy these bits and pieces:
- Be your own advocate.
- Be proactive whenever you can.
- Decisions have to make sense for all.
- Don’t let the culture change you, you change your culture.
- Focus on self-issues first so you have the energy to assist others.
- Supervisors are held to a higher level, act like it.
- Rely on your support systems and relationships.
- Identify who or what is causing the frustration.
- Why is this important to you?
- Take advantage of any work professional development dollars available.
Each one of these snippets can be great conversation starters. Do any of them speak to you?
Question Thinking (QT) is out ability to be in charge of our own thinking, moment by moment. How do I fix it? takes you from being powerless to confident enough to take constructive action.
Three important questions:
- Are you willing to take responsibility for your mistakes and for the attitudes and actions that led to them?
- Are you willing to forgive yourself and laugh at yourself?
- Will you look for value in your experience, especially the most difficult ones?
Question Thinking is a system of skills and tools using questions to expand how you approach virtually any situation.
- Question everything.
- How can you get the best answers without asking the best questions first?
- Questions drive results.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. – Albert Einstein
Cite: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams
You are about to pass the 80-day mark of the 100-day journey that I challenged you to on February 5th. How are you feeling? Do you need to keep doing what you are doing? Do you need to make some shifts or changes? Whatever it is, I encourage you to continue this journey through the end. There are 20 days left, you can do it. Let’s go.
God is here! As we your people
Meet to offer praise and prayer,
May we find in fuller measure
What it is in Christ we share.
Here, as in the world around us,
All our varied skills and arts
Wait the coming of the Spirit
Into open minds and hearts.
Here are symbols to remind us
Of our lifelong need of grace:
Here are table, font, and pulpit;
Here the cross has central place.
Here in honesty of preaching,
Here in silence, as in speech,
Here, in newness and renewal,
God the Spirit comes to each.
Here our children find a welcome
In the Shepherd’s flock and fold;
Here as bread and wine are taken,
Christ sustains us as of old.
Here the servants of the Servant
Seek in worship to explore
What it means in daily living
To believe and to adore.
Lord of all, of church and kingdom,
In an age of change and doubt
Keep us faithful to the gospel;
Help us work you purpose out.
Here, in this day’s dedication,
All we have to give, receive:
We, who cannot live without you,
We adore you, we believe!
– Fred Pratt Green 1979, rev. 1988
In 1978, I answered the question, what makes me happy with the following:
- Feeling needed and special
- Contributing to planet earth
- Beach time
- Hotels (not motels)
- Great music
- Friends and family
Almost 40 years later, I found this list while going through old papers. Looking at this list again and cannot think of anything else to add to it. What about you? What makes you happy? Has it changed or been added to over the years? Do you have any lists from the past that have stayed constant over the years?
While I believe that people do change and improve continually, I also believe there are core strengths and attributes that are constant within us. What about you? What are your core desires?
As you search from goal to goal, what do you feel? Do you feel the moment’s satisfaction of completing the goal, or obtaining the object – the car, the house, the vacation – then followed by the ‘what’s next?’ feeling? It seems we are never completely satisfied with what we do, what we have, and who we are. In Hebrews this is listed as, ‘longing for a better country.’
“All the things that have ever deeply possessed your soul have been but hints of it – tantalizing glimpses, promises never quite fulfilled, echoes that died away just as they caught your ear. It is a secret signature of each soul that is incommunicable.”
Part of my journey has been an appetite toward self-discovery. I am always excited when I can peel away another layer and discover another part of myself. But then, I start digging again to see what else is there. As an avid reader, I do a lot of my digging via reading books and articles of interest. The areas of interest are vast but can be explained by C. S. Lewis.
“Have you noticed that the books you really love are bound together by a secret thread? You know very well what is the common quality that makes you love them, though you cannot put it into words: but most of your friends do not see it at all, and often wonder why liking this you should also like that.”
For me, the yearning to learn more about my identity continues. Based on what is written in Revelations, it will probably continue. Revelations 2:17 states, “God will give us a white stone with your new name written on it – known only to you and Him.” So, based on this, only in heaven (our identity’s birthplace) will I find out who I really am. It will be revealed with my new name, the name only God and I will know. Until then, I will continue my journey and rest along the way after each discovery. And to finish with C S Lewis: “If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”
Cite: A Better Country: Preparing for Heaven by Dan Schaefer
- The place where I belong.
- The place where I am known.
- The place I want to return to over and over.
Family, friends, buildings, rooms, familiarity, love, belonging, security, roots, and memories.
A place of retreat, comfort, and security, where we enjoy special relationships with family. Fond memories, sights, sounds, and smells remind us we are home, and when we are away from it, make us want to long to return.
Includes certain experiences that can’t be repeated. Relationships with our family change over time. We change over time. We change emotionally, physically, intellectually, and in many other ways, so it is impossible to recapture those treasured experiences of the past that we think of when we think of home. All we are left with are faded memories.
If we think about it, our dearest memories of home are nothing more than snapshots, precious memories, and moments captured briefly before the tide of time washes all evidence of them away. We try to preserve our ideas of home with pictures of people and events, but even they fade with time as those who were truly moved by them pass away.
What do you think of when you think of home? Do you think of your childhood home? Your now home? Your forever home? Your idealized home?
- Think of stepping on shore
- And finding it heaven
- Of taking hold of a hand
- And finding it God’s
- Of breathing a new air
- And finding it celestial air
- Of feeling invigorated
- And finding it immortality
- Of passing from a storm of stress
- To a perfect calm
- Of walking in
- And finding it home.
Cite: A Better Country: Preparing for Heaven by Dan Schaefer